W.E.D.S. - The guidelines for dialogue

The W.E.D.S. manual can be found by clicking here. A condensed version of the W.E.D.S. guidelines are below.

Write

Write your love letter to an already chosen question for 10 minutes. As you write, keep in mind the person to whom you are writing – your spouse. Write for the full 10 minutes. First, answer the question in two or three sentences sharing your thoughts. Then, reflecting on your answer, get in touch with your feelings. Write your feelings honestly, openly, and sincerely. Describe your feelings in a way that your spouse can relate.

Exchange

Silently and lovingly, exchange your love letter when you get together as a gift of yourselves to one another. Silently read each other’s love letter twice - once for the head and once for the heart.

Dialogue

Dialogue after you have read the letters twice. Decide which of you expressed the strongest feeling. Dialogue on that feeling for 10 minutes. Sit close to each other and give each other your full attention. Once you have exhausted all the ways to describe the feeling or 10 minutes is up, the dialogue should be brought to closure.

Select

Select a question for the next day’s dialogue now. Do not wait or it may not happen. Choose a question about things that are pertinent to your relationship. Take turns choosing questions.